Well!  That was a nice comment from a single guy.  I'll be sure to put him on the B list.

All of us married guys are just a pissed off woman away from being single.  So just being single for a while can only be so bad as a character reference.

But there is the deliberate perpetually single but still wanting pussy guy.  These guys harvest and walk, which does not do a lot to make a supply of secure fun women in the world.

There is single and can't keep one guy.  These guys can be okay, but they don't have the skills to keep one, where the above category chooses not to have one.  A big secret is that a lot of the guys who say they are in category one are actually in category 2.

There is the nice single guy lookin for Ms. Right, but fuckin multiples in the meantime guy.  These guys are more inclined to find a relationship than to make one if they have been at it very long.  Some of these guys are also in category 2. Most of married folks are of the opinion that you make what you want in a realtionship.

But for lifestylin, single guys could never make a lifestyle.  But couples could.

We like our single guy friends, and there is no better designed sex fun than what two guys can do for one girl.  It's an individual choice thing.

But the problem with most single guys is that they are too self-absorbed to apply themselves to a relationship for more than a moment, or for more than them getting what they want at a minimum of effort.  Giving them some intimacy can make a woman feel underappreciated. And the women who can take that the best are married, swingers and have a full time devotee to make them happy.

And THAT's the Troof!

I really promised myself not to get involved in this discussion, life is too short for this, but I just have to make some comments:

First of all to the (few?) ignorant people (sorry, I do not see any reason to be polite there :-) who believe that swinging is a couples lifestyle; it is all about a state of mind, being single M or F, couple or whatever has absolutely nothing to do with it! Believeing that people change their mindset every time they marry/divorce or otherwise drift in and out of relationships is not really realistic is it?

To the people who are claiming that most single men are Neanderthalers; well, you must work on your search for single guys, if you are just soo bad that you are unable to find decent people - says more about you than it does about single guys, so please do not call me :-)

To the statistics; well let's face some facts here; the majority of swingers are in no way related to anything organised, being websites, clubs etc. and this is especially true for the ones searching for single guys, so real life is somewhat different from the stats (and the demand for single guys much higher).
I can have all the fun I want with people I meet in "the real world", outside the organised scene, and the scene hardly accounts for any fun in my life, apart from meeting a few great friends there, in fact, I never knew I was a "problem" as a single guy until I got involved with the scene; rreally says it all, doesn't it?

And to attitude in general; the established scene, clubs, bars, house parties etc. seems to have a strange attitude; single guys are only just tolerated, if ever, they are told how to behave, what to do and when to perform and are often treated worse than a street hooker, and everything is in the hands of the couples who are allowed anything and everything, just because they are a couple, yet the single guys are often the ones actually paying for the party. Strange attitude; what kind of single guys do you expect to meet at a venue like that? ;-)

Looks to me that so many "so-called swingers" are just so desperate to secure whatever they happen to be looking for that, in their narrow mind, swinging is about just that and nothing else, in fact, I am really glad if I do not fit into their picture :-)

Hey, that was just my .02 - glad I got that off my chest, now go ahead, start yelling and screaming, what do I care; I am doing so much better outside sdc anyway ...
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Seems to be alot of single male battering in here.  Sure there are arrogant males in here,  but, guess what,  look in the mirror,  you will see just as many arrogant couples, and single females. Does anyone batter them?   Do they have anymore  "right" in this lifestyle than a male. Don't think so.  To throw stones at just one species is being a little shallow,  isn't it?Sure I am seeing it on the single male side,  but,   I do know that there are couples that do want a single male to join in their activities, simply because the woman    DOES  enjoy her men.   Don't some couples enjoy having an extra female?    Well,   some also enjoy the male.  You may not, that is your prefreence,but, to exile  the male because of your preference is not being right to your fellow couples that do. If you don't wish to have a male contact you enev though you have it stated in your profile,,  then turn on your male blocker. Now,  how hard is that?

  I have noticed that some couples do state  "no single males"     , but,  in their speed dating section they ask for          that's right,               THE  SINGLE MALE        go figure.

  The rude part about it is,that,    a couple that doesn't want  a single male,  mails me, and asks for some more pictures,  they are sent, then they can't even be courtious enough to at least say         thanks, but, no thanks.    They say some single males are rude,  again,    look in the mirror, there are more rude couples than males.

  Now you know the rest of the story.

Single guys on this site are the same as anything else - some are genuine respectful nice guys and others are a pain in the arse! You can' lump them all together....however, being honest we have come across more that have been a pain in the arse, which is a shame as it often makes it harder for the "nice guys".

For us to even consider a single guy it firstly depends on the email they have sent, the one liner kind with only cock shots attached get deleted straight away. Then I will look at their profile and if it is one of these profiles where no effort has been made with it and contains a few words and the pics are of his cock from different angles then again it puts me right off. Also we look at the validations these will often tell you alot!

Lastly if I do decide I am interested in chatting with a single guy with a view to meeting then it depends on how they "behave" when chatting. If they are the kind that are only intersted in seeing pics or wanting a webcam show etc then they have blown it. If they can't hold a conversation unless they are being sleezy then they have blown it.

Also it is important for them to show Mr Horny some respect as if he is not happy then I'm not happy and vice versa.

Perhaps I am too picky, I don't know but I like to feel as if I am being treated with a bit of respect!

Mrs Horny x

Hey Babysue,

Those IQ results you posted are an Urban Legend, and has been busted since 2001.  Next time try checking your facts.  See http://www.snopes.com/inboxer/hoaxes/presiq.htm for more info.

Spike

IF YOU MAKE SDC { ALL COUPLES SWING-SITE}WITHOUT SINGLE GUYS. IT WILL BE A BORING SITE.AND A LOT OF COUPLES WILL NOT SUBSCRIBE TO THE IDEAR ANYWAY.

My husband and I hosted a party last weekend that included 28 couples and 7 single males of all colors and ages. My "dream team" of single men rounded out the party for those of us ladies who aren't bi and helps to fill in the gaps when the husbands are "recovering", not to mention being handsome and sexy.  My husband is very happy with my choice of single playmates, because we have had wonderful luck with making friends with amazing single men! We have had one sitation where the guy was married and cheating, but someone outed him to us and we stopped seeing him. I have a lot of single male friends who make me very happy and I am grateful for every one of you!

Well, we have had some great responses to the blog, some pro and some con which is great...It is noteworthy to look at the poll though...Those of you who are not into single males seem to be in the minority which i must say came as a bit of a suprise...69% of those who responded actively have single males join them...This figure may be skewed a bit as I'm sure single males that voted obviously voted in their favor but most of the comments have been posted by couples!  Many of those who are in favor seem to carry the same tone when it comes to single males joining them...Respect, manner, discretion, class,mind set, and character seem to override performance and size,( suprised?)

Anyway, keep having fun and keep an open mind...If we all liked the same things the world would be incredibly boring and monotonous!

The lifestyle by definition is a couple's lifestyle.  Does that statement mean single guys don't belong?  We don't really think so since some couples are looking for that too.  We like most couple would rather go find them not have them find us.  Being on SDC is great as long as they can read when profiles say "no single males"; I know putting that in is pointless since they still email us.  Single males at parties are fine if it is a house party you can simply leave if you don't like it.  Single males at clubs we don't like and don't go to ones where they are allowed.  We don't play with couples where they are not married and only together to play. 

The major problem with single males we have encountered is discretion.  I have worked with two of them that considered themselves swingers. They seemed to walk around and let everyone know it too.  I have worked with other couples and no one is at the water cooler talking about it, showing pictures, or logging on and showing everyone the profiles on swinger's sites.  They would go to a party over the weekend and on Monday it is all they could talk about. This caused one couple at work to be exposed.  I know some single males would never do this which is great. Just the ones we have met at work are like this.  For two years we have had to be careful which parties we attended and which clubs we went to. We have even removed pics from our profile to make sure they can not put two and two together since they work for me. 

We know lots of couples are proud of being swingers and want everyone to know.  We are not ashamed to be in the lifestyle by far.  We know our jobs would not like it and would hurt our overall reputation and chances for adavncement or even termenation. We also would not like our kids or extended family members to know either.  Just some things don't need to mix.

So do single guys belong? Overall we would say no they should never be in a couples only environment even if escorted by a single female.

tnb

Here is what interests us in Single guys. We are a couple that has seen it all.  There are certain rules for each couple & rules for single women as well as men.

As a single guy, how do you find out about these rules! Well this lifestyle isnt just about sex & fucking, every now & then you want to make friends/partners. 

It all starts with a simple conversation!  Communication is Key!  Single guys, theres nothing wrong about comming up to the Husband and saying Hello! ( Respect the husband as you might find your self playing with his wife, so provide the respect that he deserves!) A simple hello or how are you is in order, or invite us for what ever your drinking and a little conversation.  During the conversation if the Wife or GF shows some interest, then talk to the husband & find out what the rules are.  The best time to find out about these rules is when the Wife or GF is at the restroom, getting a drink, or while shes talking to some of her female friends.

Listen to the rules! OBEY the rules & conduct your self by the guidelines provided by the husband & then you will be ok. Here is your chance as a single guy to know what turns the female on. In this lifestyle getting recommendations from couples will get you in the door to meet other couples a lot easier & get invited to private parties.  Think about making friends FIRST & fucking later. If fucking is all on your mind as a single guy your cutting yourself short not allowing yourself to enter into the world of the couples lifestyle! Keep in mind that single guys are every where, the Single guy that behaves & thinks about the Couple/Wife/GF first, will have the best impression a gentelman can have in the lifestyle. This will open lots of doors for you as you get introduced to other couples & single women.

If you follow the rules, this will get you invited for 2nds & 3rds & invited to parties. And always keep in mind, if you hear the word NO, respect it & live it....

IF there is NO interest in you, just excuse yourself & walk away. Later on if your package is like Moby Dick and she wants you, you'll get invited to play. At least there was some communication earlier. OH, some couples may not be interested in conversation or your looks, but just the package. We have known couples that actually come out and say if your bigger than 9" we are interested in playing. But guess what? Sometimes you do need to be ready to pull it out & show it!

I'm a single guy that has been in the lifestyle for about a year and a half now.  It's not easy because of the fact that you pay for what others have done.  Alot of couples that have SINGLE MALES on there profile know that they are going to get an email from several.  This lifestyle is about bein able to be open and enjoy the moment of your fantasy of what many have.  Not only sexual but also mentaly and carfully,  Alot of couples enjoy the companionship of a respective single male and many don't.  Going to the swingers clubs and meeting people and couples have been a great experience,  it is the only place where you are going to find someone that you talk to that would actually listen to what you are saying and not wanting to seewhat car you drive or where you live.  The point of the fact is that SINGLE MALES makes part of this lifestyle both positive and ngative.  So, to each it's own and remember don't always assume that all Single males are the same...... 

Afternoon to the SDC members. I received a phone call today from a couple that had read the blogs about single men, since they thought I would have something to add they asked me to view it and give my thoughts. I like to say I was thinking I was going to come in here and find a blood bath on how single men are viewed but I have to say (Sexxycouplefl) just about hit all the area that would cover single men. I have been on SDC for a few years I stumble on it after my divorce meeting a young lady at a club here in Dallas. I had been in the lifestyle prior while in Europe but it was not called a lifestyle there. I was unaware of the attitude towards single men till I started attending some events. I felt so dirty I came here to SDC and submitted a story on single men and they gave me some reward for it but I do not have it now but will look for it.

Single men (strike that) respectful, professional, single men bring something to the table and like many of the Blogs stated there are as many attitudes and level of single men as there are blogs to describe them. I agree single men should be put through a few test to weed out the freaks from the fakes. But lets look at the cpls and the fantasy some want a single man to play. The rapist, The Mandingo Slave-Kind of liked that one!!, The pimp, The cop, and the list goes on. Now add to the single man ordeal and throw in color, which is a sub-culture in, its self and single guys become lower life form.

I have had a few encounters with cpls on here good and bad my best course of action has been to try and maintain respect and professional conduct. But like with anything some people will make you loose all those years you learned to become and upstanding caring man to make you go Negro (Yeah I said it). They have single on their profile so if you have that expect single men to contact you, Nothing in the profile indicates your views on black men. Now some will say why should I say I do not like black men just do not reply. Well cause that is rude and the lifestyle intent are to foster open thinking and expression and exchange of ideas and fun. A racial Bias is just that but it lets single black men know not to waste your time or there's. I like to be honest and if I say it you can take it to the bank. If I say I will show I will, if I cannot make it I will call in plenty of time to cancel, but not done unless sick or work (seldom).

To close out We as single men bring something to the table but where you have any select society or under culture you have those that feel someone is unworthy to be apart of it. That is why some secret society was created. I will still do my best to make any cpl or single woman that allows me the encounter to feel like she is the only one that matter and she does women are screaming for gentlemen and there are many among us go ahead ask around I will wait.

Okay, so maybe my statements were a little out of line. So here is another one. SDC should probably remove the ones that are constant disrespectors. 3 strikes and you are off the boards. Therefore you would have more of the quality single males, instead of the, look at the pictures and shoot an email off to say "hey you are hot, wanna fuck?" , single male. Maybe that would bring a better name to the single males. Just my .02. By the way, when we first got on SDC, the blocks didn't seem to work. They do work well now.

Hmmmmmmm... We have been reading the good and the bad on this blog... and quite frankly We are once again very disappointed at some of the comments.  We have no issues with single men.... There are some that are just persistant and pushy, but you cant generalize the rest due to a few bad ones... We have met single guys that are cool and very respectful.... Then we have had the other side of the coin.... Bisexual women who come in here and have boyfriends but want to have women on the side... So what they do is they seek the couple, and then tell them that they are only interested in the girl and that they don't want the guy to fuck her... We have also been to parties where the hubby takes the woman to the party and she sits there, while he goes around having sex with other females... This is a lifestyle, different strokes for different folks... To each its own... We have free will, and we are considered adults because we can make our own choices so why ban the single male simply because some folks don't like them?

And I almost spilled my drink when I read the couple that said that SDC should close off memberships to male until the female single population balances it out... LMAO!!! What kind of crap is that? You cant dictate folks how to run their business... You have ways to block people off your profile... If you don't want to be part of a certain thing on here, then just simply don't seek for it and stick to what you like... But to impose your choices on folks on here is just down right tacky....

We are newbies, and we have come across couples that move funny and weird in the lifestyle... Yet we still have remained open and don't judge couples that might aproach us in the future...

What is the biggest fantasy discussed amongst couples? 3SUMS!!! If its MFM, FMF... 3SUMS is usually how folks start out...

To the negative, I say, if you don't like it move on... But dont come in here, giving into ignorance and put such general comments as you have...

REMEMBER FOLKS, IT REMAINS AN OPINION WHEN THE WORDS ARE YOURS AND NOT SHARED BY OTHERS....

Indy & Drew

I have to say being a single bi-Female,  I get approached by my share of single men.  On my profile it does state looking for couples and and bi-females only!  I put this there to slim down the number of incoming emails cause there are those who just want to be polite and say hi or let you know they are interested "just in case"  There are a selective few (single men) that I do speak with.  I would say reasons being :

1. Approach

2. Respect

3. Be yourself

4. Friendships

5. Always remember if this were your wife or g/f...How would you feel if someone said this to her.

Treat everyone how you would want to be treated always!!!

Having been a single guy in the lifestyle myslef. I found it easier to treat couples as I would treat a single woman. People can always tell if you are talking to them or their body parts. So I found it important to have real conversations, and just be a nice and respectful guy. If the couples likes you, good things will happen. No one wants a horny jerk in bed with them. Also so there is hope for single guys, you just might meet that beautiful single female who is open to the lifestyle, and you wont be single anymore..Sorry guys I found Kitty first..lol

Trey

Great too see so many responses, positive and a few negative as well...
It is still good to see both sides of the coin sometimes!  A few double headed coins out there!
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I myself as a single guy listen to  different opions from couples as to why I'm here on this site for swinging couples,well that has to do with the very reason why im a full member it's rite there in my profile ,I enjoy watching others as well as joining them if they would like .while I go to the chat rooms and join the conversationsif some one is uncomfortible with me they only have say and I respect there feelings and I don't bother them at all .there is in this site an incredible amount of styles and this is somewhere they might be able to meet some one of the same style but I never push my self on anyone.I sit and wait as is my style and if and when some one is interested then they can ask what they want.I too hate it when some one is rude and talking like the director.that is something that I think turns off alot of couples to single men although I also see members listed as couples that do that too.So please don't hate me cuz Im single and male until "I" give you a reason we are not all the same.

since we enjoy threesomes with a second man, i am open to singles also i am not into sharing my husband, so how does that work at these clubs, when single women and couples are all that is allowed?? sort of leaves us out as i am not bi and don't share my man.......i think we have to be open to all of the variables of this lifestyle and not judgemental to only meet our specific needs

sass

ps.   please look over the errors in my text LoL  i'm temporary blont !Explicit image available, join sdc.com to view Ron

RON

oke first i like to say that those comments from couples whitout a name on top and are negative about single guys are verry courrageous.

For myself i'm a single male and i started on sdc just about a year ago.

At the beginning most of the couples on chat where verry negative about the fact.Why a single male on sdc? Well let me explain . I did not started as a single guy .My girlfriend left me about 5 years ago.The fact that i'm on sdc is verry simple.the lifestyle did interrest me and i got introduced by a couple.

In mine oppinion it doesn't matter if youre single male female or couple. it is a lifestyle! why be affraid of the big bad single male? and why the hunt for a single female? I know some of them and i can tell you how desperate some couples are hunting on them . Are they any better than those single guys on sdc?

Why be affraid of a single male? If you dilike them  oke why? is your relation with your girlfriend as solid as you think? the dangers of letting a single guy in your sexlife as i read earlier in a comment are the same as letting a single female in your sexlife.!!!!I can tell!!

I agree with some couples about the fact that some of the single males on chat are verry desperate surching for sex and show not mutch respect  ! I am single , i enjoy chatting !You 'll never find me pushing me on to a couple or the female (couple) on chat.A compliment oke..that's all . Just chat and enjoy the lifestyle.If you get invited you'll will hear it .Don't push your luck guys.! show some respect .If you send a message and don't get one back just relax and stop send private messages!!! Like i said i'm single do some dates and even i got angry ! you can't put a cam on or  you'll gett Private messages on a row!How desperate can you be ! No = noExplicit image available, join sdc.com to view.If what you've seen on cam makes you horney just enjoy and relaxt and show some respect !!! I know you can say you will get reactions when you're on cam , you aske for it.. send a mail !!! a compliment is nice desperately sending pm and im request is in my oppinion not verry respectfull and doesn't bring you what you want !!!

Explicit image available, join sdc.com to viewfrom the other hand i have a question to those couples who scream on chat get lost , no single males, go wank yourselves... Why do you ask in pm anonimious if im interrested in a date ??? isn't this kiss and tell attitude?Why the negative part on chat and in private the positive?

in my oppinion it's about a lifestyle with respect for each other, male female couple whatever.show some respect and some class Don't lett the willing suffer from the bad! Just go with the flow and relax.I m over a year on sdc and had allways a good time , visited some partys with a (female) friend and i have to say that it was good fun and i loved the way how most of the couple sccepted me as a SINGLE male !! Why? isn't it all about respect? Did they noticed me as who i am or as a possible danger? what do you think?Just be yourself enjoy the lifestyle. Don't jugde us! the big man will do ! You know better than that.Just let nature do his job and you will see that those who mean good will enjoy the lifestyle and those who are desperate looking for sex will not stay long on sdc.the aren't real swingers they are looking for cheap sex not for a lifestyle ! 

For all of you have

Stel321,

Sorry that you feel the way you do but such is your preference, fine.  The lifestyle is not about just couples only, its about folks preference.  Its fine that you guys do not enjoy single guys but do you enjoy single ladys.  Lets not be of shallow mind or hold a double standard based on your individual preference.  I will be the first to say that there are alot of single guys that do not have a clue but by the same token those who dont are not true singles or even 'select' singles.  But, their are couples who fall into the same category.  The lifestyle is not defined into any specific category of desires or types but folks who share an open sexual  expression of individual/group adventures and encounters.

Sorry that singles guys rain on your party but we are a part of the lifestyle rain or shine.

i do dislike the number of single guys showing up the last couple of months on SDC.

we have chosen this site because there where mostly couples(swingers) here.

it seems money is the word here rather than quality of the site.

we do choose to go to swingersclubs where they only alowe couples and no single man. so why should this site alow single guys to become a member? i know there are exeptions to the rule like couples who have split up etc and know the swingersrules.but they will find their way to a new swingersrelationship anyway.

most single guys are like kingfishers....the come fishing in your pond without bringing there own fish and that is what we do not like.

probably not everybody thinks the same but it is just comment from a couple who has a remark for SDC.

We're always looking for good quality singles... male or female.  We both enjoy the experience of a threesome and I'd say it's definitely an important part of why we're here.  The problem that occurs with singles is the same one we have with couples...they either:

1. don't read our profile

2. don't take the polite "no" for an answer

3. don't have pics

OR

4. They completely flake on us

That said, when you weed through the masses, there are some fantastic single guys out there, it's just the other ones that ruin it for the rest. 

PHICOUPLE: those are the disrespectful ones that will ruin it for anyone.

Next time go up to the owners of the club and make a complaint. We will lay money that this single male will no longer be permitted into that club!

If you are not in a club and they do this then you might need to be rude, even though you do not want to be.

This is what we meant when saying they can spoil the mood for anyone, when they are disrespectful & ignorant in the lifestyle.

We dont play with single guys but we are always polite, making it clear that we only play with other couples. Most are respectful about it but what pisses us off are:-

1) single guys who wont take no for an answer

2) Single guys who accept what we say, appear to be understanding, then start trying to change our minds, or try to touch my partner

3) Single guys who follow us around in clubs and start wanking off when we are getting down to things, we move hoping they will take the hint, but they just follow

4) Single guys who will chat my partner up when she is alone, then piss off as soon as i turn up

I once went to a party when a single guy tried to join in with 2 couples who were playing, he was nicely told they were not interested, but he carried on and then demanded to know why he couldnt join in !!!

First let us say we agree 100% with what SBPFLA had to say. Preference is very much a KEY to those we chose to join us!

Single men play an great role in what we do look for (we are the unicorns to the REAL single men out there, although some call us trouble, because we speak the truth!), but to many use an overaggressive behavior and a whole lot of lies to try to get us to meet. Being HONEST pays off with us.

Single men think that swing sites are so they can get an easy lay (in some cases this is true), which is not the case with everyone and certainly not with us!

A lot of these men are married/cheating or closet bi and we do see a few of you that have posted in here..lol It's none of our business how you want to swing as long as you aren't pushing us into what you want if we don't look for that. Thank you to those who have actually been honest! Explicit image available, join sdc.com to view

We will be the first ones to say we do not want to be caught up in your drama of lies or something that turns us both off.  Explicit image available, join sdc.com to view  We know perfectly well what happens when they lie about being single or straight. Been there, done that & can't stand liars at all. They ruin a lot of things for many people out there. Explicit image available, join sdc.com to view

Friendship plays in a big role in our search & relationships with all the men we know. If all they are looking for is a married woman who they can f'ck n leave then we pass them by quickly. Looking at her like a piece of meat will totally turn her off!

Learn to communicate with us both and have common sense when it boils down to everything.

If they would like to start off as friends and see where it goes, then they are more than welcome to meet us at any of the happy hour meet n greets.

Although a few have not approached us at these, they told us later they thought we were looking for couples and thought they will get bashed (we have heard from a lot of singles out there). Bothersome people have made us all bash someone at times.

One of the biggest tips we can offer is to walk up introduce yourself with your SDC name and real name. Politely ask if they accept singles or ask what they are looking for. All they can say is "No, thank you" & if they do, excuse yourself, tell them you are sorry for bothering them and walk away. Just move on to another cpl that may say yes. Men that hang around & hope they will change their mind spoil the moods of many out there.

Only those that respect us both, not just the husband, would ever have the honor of meeting a real cpl such as us, we do & would invite them back many times (if we all click). That might sound stuck up, but consider that we already have each other in the first place & we can f'ck as often as we like already!

We only invite those we can trust (that respect us both as humans first) to join us in anything.

We are all human in all this, so why not treat each other as humans? Being able to carry on a simple conversation will be one heck of a start, instead of sending "when can I f'ck  her" or only c'ck pics in a first email to us..lol

To many use those standard letters on this site & are constantl

Cont....

blow it for many others out there in the long run!  It doesn't take much of a brain for anyone to figure this out.

That all famous question once a reply is sent back saying we are not interested is "Why, you accept single men, don't you?". Can you say DELETE? That is a stupid question to ask any cpl out there that does accept single men. If you feel the need to ask questions about why you were sent a "No, Thank you" then you should have your answer in the first place. It means (for those who are players) to back off no one wants to meet you if you are playing games or not what they look for.

Put some thought and effort into any email you send to a cpl, but remember that if you cannot reply back right away, you may get tossed back out for not responding when they have taken the time to respond to you to begin with. No cpl likes to be played for fools & plenty of single men out there think they are the cream of the crop, when they keep forgetting to make an impression you have to be on your toes to do this. Make an impression that is good, not one that will make them remember you because you were the fool in not replying or lying.

Don't change your profile to make it look like you are the perfect person they are looking for. We catch way to many that try to do this to us.

And last (but not least, we are sure we will find many more things...lol), DO NOT OFFER TO BRING FRIENDS OR A GAL ALONG if that is not what a cpl is looking for! It's a stupid move we have seen from many of the single men out there.

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I got fucked by a single guy. My wife loved guys and I was ok with that until a guy decided to rescue her. A couple friends of us were approached by this guy. The wife fell in love with him and was going to leave her husband. My wife came to the rescue she also fell in love with him and he choose her. My wife left me for him and she broke all connections with all of our mutual friends. The interesting thing was that he told the same things to both girls mine was just prettier.

I think single guys are dangerous because you don't know their agenda. I also found out that if your wife likes so much guys she really doesn't care for you and she is not so much into the life style but just looking for the next guy.

Wow, there are so many different factors that come into play.  As a single, I think you have to consider many things but key for most of us single fellas is Approach, Respect and Appearance.  but it all starts with giving the couple Respect on three levels, the wife as a woman not a piece of meat, the husband as a man and a key person and then the relationship.  Yes, we all know its about sex but its about fun first.  You have to make that connection at some point on some level and after that its all about preference.  Just as we as men have a preference so does the wife, the husband - they choose you in the lifestyle you don't choose them.  Enjoy

I am a single woman...so a single guy is a good thing!  I like when a guy approaches me as a gentlemen and asks would I be interested or if I would like to join him.  The single men walking around with their "toy" in their hand and their tongue wagging is a turn off. 

I think everyone should be given a fair chance and single men get a bad rap in this lifestyle.  Appearance does matter...but moreso...good hygiene.  Certainly performance plays a part....he needs to know how to please a woman not just himself.  Moby Dick isnt the answer for everyone either...just need to know how to use it!!

So guys...remember...dont walk over holding your  thang in your hand...be a gentleman...speak to woman..see if there is anything there..then see if she wants to play or join you.  Then let the good times Roll!!!