hı! how are u there? ı would lıke to meet u.

HONESTLY in allot of cases I don't think its outrightracism... with all the upbringing it's a HARD bridge to cross for some women...When I was in college most of my friends were white.. so I found myself in alot of romantic situations with white girls. things would heat up but a lot ofthem would chicken out before anything serious would happen, they just couldn'thandle it. They may not hate black men but just aren't ready to sleep withone. Also not finding a black man attractive does not I repeat does not makeyou racist.

I hate how black men can say something like "I don't find Asian womenparticularly attractive" and its fine... but a white woman or white mansays it... then its racist! Sigh.

BUT there are allot of very racist people on this site... but of course themaren't going to advertise that of course. And honestly if there were openlyracist people on here... white people would be the first to call them out andbash the, it's true I've seen it happen on other sites.

But onto your situation... i want you to consider one of the major truths ofthis site.

Single BLACK men are 100 times more successful than single WHITE men... why is this?Allot of couples are trying to fill a fantasy so good-looking...  wellbehaved black men do extremely well. And that's a damn fact... so, no I don'tthink racism is part of your issue.

Maybe its bad luck, it could also be your husbands size. Yeah he has anexcellent body but some men will be EXTREMELY intimidated by that.

But I digress im partied with all kinds of couples from full swap to soft swapto the "bliss club" types. Don't give up there are lots of couplesthat sure into the interracial thing! Keep trying! And lots of luck guys!

Well, 

As far as your question, people are stupid....thats all there is too it. I hate seeing peoples preferences called racism as some of the posts put it, just because sombody isnt attracted to a particular race or body type etc etc doesnt mean they are discriminating. The lifestyle is really the only place where that applies. Its all equal, either they like you or dont, you really dont get a vote either way.

 We have full swapped with one black man, and Laurel couldnt walk for two days :P he was quite monsterous a freak of nature really. Thats was pretty much the last time she was interested in more then oral LOL. It was quite funny actually....the look on her face hehe. She has given many black guys oral. Preference wise we really dont have a preference as long as they arent thugs, are clean and are respectful and well spoken and that applies to all races and creeds. Now as far as black woman, we've only played with one as well, and would LOVE to again. That is really because none have had a real interest in me. Everybody seems to like Laurel :P. I'm not sure really why black girls for the most part don't like me....yes I cant dance....yes im white down to my socks...well ok I can see why there isnt alot of interest lol  but I can lick a girl stupid and have an 8 1/2 member to please em with. Any black girls willing to try :)

Rob and Laurel

Our sentiments exactly!  CJNCFL your right on target!  Not only do you have the correct mind set, you also have a SLAMMING SEXY ROCK BODY!!!!!!

In this lifestyle your going to meet all kinds of people with likes & dislikes. Lets face it, "They Walk Among Us"  If you meet someone like that, 1st you dont need them & 2nd Fuckem!   You will find the quality couples or singles that meet your tastes & meet your expectations.  Remember BLACK or White is beautiful!

We've met a few couples that were not open minded about race. I havent really figured out why people, especially in this lifestyle , have such hangups.Sexy people are sexy people. A variety of culture and / or race,  just makes life more interest in all aspects.

I guess the only thing those of us who arent predjudice about race can do is live our life as an example and educate those that want to be educated.The rest of em...F'  em!

well we are a couple in switzerland and I have to say we have not had this problem....yet but if we do we would just move on. Life is to short to get upset about other peoples idea`s on life.We entered the lifestyle to have new experiances and would never turn a couple down because of the color of there skin.

You two look great we would meet you so who knows maybe the next time we are in Fl  :-)

We have been fortunate enough to have lived in quite a few places around the world over the last 20 odd years and yes, racism is alive and well everywhere.. For those of you that say it doesn't exist in your country, you are sadly mistaken!

Just because YOU have not experienced it or you say it doesn't exist means it absolutely doesn't exist right? Come one, you can do better than that!!

Americans are just more in your face about it, and that is what separates the US from the rest of the world.. IMHO

We lived in Holland for 8years and England for 4..

We have been to clubs in Holland where we were met by the door staff and told that we could not enter because there were too many blacks males in the club, even though we were a couple!

When confronted, they always said the management wanted a balance and too many black males made the club less attractive to white clientel.. Call that business if you like!!

In England it was less of an issue than expected but in some instances, white males would tell the managers, if you let them in, we take our group and leave..  Business is business so we were denied entry..

Do we lable everyone racist, no, do we lable them ignorant, absolutely, but it won't sway us away from who we are.. We're not married to these people nor do they pay any of our bills so we generally laugh at them and find somewhere else to go..

Now, wanna get a real shock? We've even faced reverse racism in the lifestyles from black couples that didn't appreciate a black man with a white woman, and had no problem telling us about it..

Racism is what it is, ignorance is something altogether different.. You can call preference whatever you want to call it, but sometimes it is a cloak for racism.. Not always, but in some instances..

One rule for us is to never judge a person or group of people based on their outward appearance or even what they might say at a given moment.

But..... We will judge you on your intent and your actions..

Peace

Cuna's

Add>>> Here is something to keep this issue in perspective.. Even when you are denied by a person or couple, just remember, they will be denied by another, so it's safe to say, we're all guilty of something that might be offensive to someone else..

We as an interracial couple do not see this as Racism. Sorry, that is just whining. We happen to be Black Female/White male.  There are those who are black who have no preference for us because I am white, there are those who have no preference for us becuase she is black. Who gives a rats ass what they want or dont want.  We are both old enough to know that we dont want to screw people who are not interested in us. I promise that would be the most boring sex you could get.

We have been in the lifestyle for a long time.  We have heard this stupid whine for years.  You will find blacks, asian, latinos, mixed folks who have preferences for the own. 

We by the way never to mercy fucks.  We have heard single men whine they cant get any, couples complain about too many men.  Our only gripe is about whining, or people who think becuase we say hello we are then going to fuck them.

A racist act would be if a club didnt allow someone in becuase of their color, a choice is when two or one person chooses not to fuck you because they dont find you attractive. Believe me there are plenty of black folks that are not attracted to white women or white men, There are plenty of whites the same, asian the same.  It is their right and privilege. As soon as anyone starts complaining because they cant get laid we walk away. 

You are both exceptionally attractive, so I doubt your missing out much on play time.

No one gets laid because they are whining.

I must say I agree with some of the responses indicating that there is a vast difference between racism and preference...Being from a hick town in the midwest, I have seen both in their extremes first hand...We all have preferences in this lifestyle and not being chosen buy everyone in it is simply part of the lifestyle...For example, I prefer not to be with really large girls or girls that can find a razor or waxing salon...(Exception: After required amount of alcohol, it doesn't matter, everyone starts to look the same LOL).  I am not prejudice toward them as I will still party with them etc., I just may not play with them sexually...Do I feel segregated by couples only seeking black males as a number of couples on here indicate as such?  No, I just party with the ones who are attracted to what I have to offer...This lifestyle is probably 65-70% rejection for single guys and maybe a little less for couples...I have been rejected for being too short, too white, too Democrat, too fat, too young, too old, too poor, too vanilla, too straight, too shaved, too ugly (I'm guessing now) and many more (toos) to count I'm sure...I just try to be me and nothing more..That is usually enough...Not good on the self esteem to fret over the people who are not attracted to me.  I just try to have a blast with the ones who do!  BTW - Love girls any darker than white, always a treat!  (Hell, as hot as your "baby" is, I'll do him! LOL)  Have fun and Happy Hunting!

Remember: "If it ain't fun, why do it?"

Okay, enough of the condescending comments from the Dutch! One question: Is the legal age of consent still 12 years old in your country?!!!! I suppose you would consider that situation a result of advancement in culture, education etc... here we consider it a crime.

Don't throw stones if you live in a glass house. No one is perfect including you so don't knock the Americans.

No idea why - you both look stunning - come on over.

Alex and Sarah xxxxx

:-) It must be an US thing. We have no problems at all with it, neither of us we mean. I guess that counts for more of the Dutch SDC community. But as all other encounters on SDC, it is off course also an issue of mutual attraction

Could it be that in general cultural, sexual and educational life in the US has not really developed itself over the pas decades... :-)

Have Funz

I think you are reading way too much into it... why dont you try being a single male on this site then you can bitch and moan about people not wanting to see you because of your skin color.  Now are you as open as you would like to have others be open to you? In this site people know what they want and they know what they dont want and some simply dont want african american men, but there are other couples which will see only african american men/women/couples... so why dont you just try finding those couples and have fun... life is too short... HAVE FUN

To be honest with you people still suck and will always suck when it comes to being interracial. A few months ago I was on a date at Hard Rock with one of my girls that is Jamaican and I do not think we walked more than 10  feet at a time without being looked at weird. I thought I had a booger or a third arm the way people were looking at us. 3ike I say some people not all are so narrow minded and they are the one's missing out on having fun with you guys.

The other ting is you are gorgeous and he is cock dee. Very well built good looking male and some men might not feel man enough around you guys cause he is ripped. Well I hope in the future to meet you guys. Tequila and shooters for me.

Don't waist time on the bad one's. Enjoy the good. Life is to short.

Alex

"WE WOULD LOVE TO MEET YOU" and youre so right about the fact that the most important thing is the "inside" of a person... so if youre in the Netherlands....and if you want to meet us..... We are ready to "RUMBLE" Explicit image available, join sdc.com to view

xxx Carola & Gert

hi there!!

me and my man also have a different colour but for most woman and man dont have a problem with that (verry happy for that) and for the few who have a problem tooooo bad i dont care

so if you have contact with people who can't see further then the coulor( what is a shame, and black IS beautiful by the way!!)  egnore them

we have a SPECIAL friend from holland (intimate see validation) and we have dated with him and people from other origines and we can all say it was a perfect cocktail!!

kisses from belgium

You've got to be kidding me!  You can see comments all over this site as to "no white guys" or "no Latinos" or "no fatties"  it's nothing personal for the most part.  Most people would love to be 1/2 as hot as you guys.  So MMUUAAA!! "baby crying"  LOL!!

Relax and enjoy the hot people that do want to be with you.

When does preference become prejudice? 

To me, a preference is a positive for the person holding it as well as for the object of that preference.  A prejudice is a negative in regards to the one it is against; negative bad, positive good. 

He finds blondes attractive.

He is not attracted to you simply because you are a brunette.

Rather his ex-wife was a brunette or it was a mean teacher in school, a prejudice against an individual has been formed without consideration for THE person. Yes, the inference is there that if you are a brunette, he is not AS attracted to you.  But, one conveys an attitude of prejudice the other of preference. 

Not being attracted to someone is not prejudice; they just don't do it for you.  Rejection isn't racism, but it can be if done with an air of intolerance simply because of someone's ethnicity. 

"Harm none.  Do what thou wilt."  Author unknown

Just so that we are all clear on the subject the definition below is the standard and we clearly do not have this going on here.  If we do someone enlighten me as I have been in the lifestyle a good many years and have yet to feel as such.  Its a shame that when someone does not get something or in this case someone,  its due to ones color or nationality worse yet - racism.  All of us have refused someone even though we were clearly their choice.  Think about it..... Enjoy

Definition of racism

Racism is defined as meaning the predication of decisions and policies on considerations of race for the purpose of subordinating a racial group and maintaining control over that group.

Racism is both overt and covert. It takes two, closely related forms: individuals acting against other individuals, and acts by a total community against another community. These are called individual and instituitonal racism. First consists of overt acts by individuals, which cause death, injury or the violent destruction of property. This type can be recorded by TV' it can frequently be observed in the process of commission. The second type is less overt, far more subtle, less identifiable in terms of specific individuals committing the acts. But it is no less destructive of human life. The second type originates in the operation of established and respected forces in the society, and thus receives far less public condemnation than the first type.

I am going to speak out of complete ignorance, because I am a white guy married to a white girl.  I am not denying the fact that there are racist that live all over the world.  BUT is every time the IR couple rejected racism? My wife and I have an agreement we never "take one for the team."  In other words, if every one is not mutually attracted to everyone else. it's not going to happen.  Let me preface this by saying that we are not out to sex everyone we meet.  Recently we were in group setting and there was one IR couple, my wife and I were not keeping tabs on each other the whole night, so later when we were comparing notes, neither one of us had played with either in that couple.  Not because he was black, but because we didn't know them.  He is a good looking guy and she was a hottie as well.  We have mutual friends with this particular couple and I know that our paths will cross again and the story may have a different ending.  My point is rejection is not always racism.  Me personally I have tasted all the colors of the rainbow, don't knock it till you try it.

We have run across that!! Where the men wanna fuck me but they are not willing to let my Hunny Bunny fuck the wife... WTF? I love my folks... but most of the time that we run across that situation the man is Latin...LOL!! I guess its a Macho Thing... Or maybe the fear of "Once you go black, you never go back" lmao!!!

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But that is alright with me... Give me a couple anyday where the man is black... If others feel just a tad bit insecure about their wee wees (lol) then that is their problem... Not ours... We prefer to hang out with folks that are sure of who they are...and are comfertable at every level...

Drew & Indy

Shiiiiiiiiiiit bring him over to my house...I think he's HOT....!!! I have the same problem too girl,, don't sweat it, white men are just intimidated by the mandingo men that are out there...

And why doesn't anyone bother to check the proper spelling of words before responding to blogs...really people...let's take an extra moment and use Microsoft word...u can type it in there and then paste it in here....Explicit image available, join sdc.com to view

In my time in this world I have received a good understanding in the difference in people......There are people that understands the reality of life....There is a certain makeup in life that applies to all......In one of the most important factors in life, is that a person has an Identity of..... WHO THEY ARE AS A PERSON.....

This seems very simple, but in reality its one of the most difficult thing to achive......We have so many things in this life that decieve us and led us down the path of the unknowing.......And the scary part of it all is that most of us are Scared to Follow the Path of the Knowing, because we are scared of Who We Are as a Person(Our own Identify)

To get a better understanding of this:

Some of us as a people create a false Identity of who we are to give a portrait of who we want people to think that we are. Some are blinded by...TV/Movies/Magazines/and the root of all evil Money.

In this world some people have to feel like they are better then others for them to have a since of pride about themselves.

A person has to feel that they can belittle a person to have a feeling of power

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Or to Down Grade or Judge another Race because they are ashamed of WHO THEY ARE AS A PERSON..

For a person to be able to stand on there on two feet and walk with the self knowledge of Who they are...Is the biggest gift that you can give your self. It's a gift that will allow you to be able to stand out in a crowd and led your own decision. A gift so loving that you can love your fellow brother because he/she is a person and not because the color of there skin or the difference in the clothes that they wear, or the money that this person has achieved. A gift so great that when you look at the refection of yourself in the mirror, you are proud of that person staring back at you knowing that the person in the mirror is righteous and humble and strong minded....Because that's what God wanted us to Be...

So I say to all my friends Be Strong and Proud of Who you Are ....And Let NO Man or Women take your Identity away from you......

Antonio/Flababyboy

And to My Peoples Flavor.........You Know How We Do.......People like that Just makes us Rise to the Occasion that much More.......And when we Rise.....Dawg we Rise.......

this is some serius BS

I HAVE SEEN BLACK GUYS HAVE THE DOUBLE FUN IN THE LIFE STYLE THAN ANY OTHER SINGLE O COUPLE GUYS FROM ANY OTHER RACE, BECAUSE LIKE YOU SAID THIS IS ABOUT EXPERIMENT NEW THINGS  AND MEETING NEW PEOPLE AND SOMETHING VERY IMPORTANT  MORBO SO THAT IS SO WRONG............. FUCK I WHISH I WAS BLACK SO I CAN HAVE A 8+ DICK AND DON`T DEPEND OF MY WYFE   PERIOD TO PLAY

Bagging on this country the USA and trying to demonize all Americans as racist is not going to fly. Let's remember that it was the Dutch and English that began bringing African slaves to this country and elsewhere. The problems and issues that Americans of all races deal with are the remnants of that initial cause made hundreds of years ago by Europeans!

Americans, black and white were born into this situation and it is going to take more than potshots and unconstructive criticism from our cousins across the pond to change it. The culpability for racism is on both whites AND blacks in this country. The fact that some  Europeans do not recognize that shows how very little you know or understand. Having interracial sex is a long way off from the races resolving issues we deal with in all other parts of life.

Being a true naturist before ever thinking about swinging it was nice to be around people who did not judge others in the least no matter what. We started swinging to expand our friendships and thought swingers would be the same but are surprised at the way we are judged by others in the lifestyle. So get used to the reaction of being a mixed couple and just remember to treat those that are accepting of it that much better when playing. We have met some wonderful people in this lifestyle that realize you don`t judge a book by its cover and will continue to search out even more like minded adults.

Now can we all just get along and respect each others thoughts and feelings. 

Glazer: I was alluding to the same thing that others have said.   You simply have an anti-US bias, exhibited by your comments on this blog and by a larger example by the "Reds" "fans" after purchase.  I was saying how foolish it is to judge someone before you give them a chance; race, sex, or country of origin.

I didn't say Euros "hate". I simply refuted your negative comment about it not being a problem in the UK, just US, by pointing out cases where it has been a problem in Europe and back up my comments about being a "World problem".

I didn't say Europeans are racist. I think I called it being Geographicist.

Voting. majority rules. minority voted for the loser. minority = unheard voice.

US Population:  281,421,906

UK Population: 60,441,457

Bush - Popular Vote: 62,028,285

Kerry - Popular Vote: 59,028,109

First off, this means that 160 million plus people just didn't give a shit.  It also means that almost as many people are not in support of Bush, disagree with policies and made the effort to vote against him, as live in your country.  How can you pass judgment on an entire country as you did with the comment about New Orleans based on that information?  I apologize for even responding to it now though, since it has dragged off topic, but to say that racism is only a US problem, US isn't doing anything about racism

kindred spirit I really wish you would read and not fill in your own perceptions. And if the glazers have anything to do with the topic I can't see it. for your information the arguement wasn't about being american it was about putting the club into such a huge debt situation. And the fans would have been in up roar about anyone coming in and taking over just as they were agianst sky television trying to take over previously.

 Go on tell us you were at the incidents so you know word for word what was said and done. Said before that the human race is genetically programmed to be rascist. how that is handled is a personal matter we have a black nigerian family living next door to us and we get on well together so please don't start trying to say that we hate non whites you will also find we have been validated by and indian couple and not just for meeting either. However did you bother reading the profile in of flavor we did and very off putting it was attitude wise so just perhaps the point was made for a reason.

 You also find people make excuses for their shortfalls in trying to see others at fault and our comment about throwing stones was in retaliation for calling europeans racists. And just who votes in these republican governments

I know that there are people that will not play with black men because they are racist and believe that black Americans are some kind of subhuman species.  However, to place in that category all people that choose not to swing with a black person is an injustice.  For instance, anyone that knows me is fully aware that I will denounce you if you have any derogatory statements to say about any race!  On the other hand, although I have slept with a few black women, typically I am not attracted to black women.  I certainly never eliminate a woman because she is black, but, historically, I have not been turned on by black women.  I don't wish to understand why, but I know it is not because of their skin colour or their potential cultural differences.  It is a feature thing, and not a cultural thing.  And, many black women have features that I don't find hot. Also, no black woman has ever given written me an email on this site expressing interest!  However, my wife finds many black men delicious!  She will play with a sexy black man whenever she gets a chance!  Honestly, it does not matter or occur to me what his race is.

There have been women that have rejected me because they don't like bald men (intentional or natural causes).  In this case, if baldness could be attributed to race, it would be considered racism.  I am sure there are many other of my features that women find unattractive, but I don't have a platform on which to hang that kind of rejection.  There is already too much racism in this world.  We have to be careful not to classify as racist more behavior than is really there.  And, in the end, blatant racism is alot less dangerous and hurtful than subtle racism from people that do not appear to be racist.  For instance, not getting a job because of your race is more damaging than being called a derogatory name.

By the way, I find it interesting that there were a few European blogs claiming that racism is more of an issue in the US than in Europe.  While this is true regarding racism towards black people, racism is just as rampid in Europe!  During my four years living in Europe, I found that the way Turkish people were treated is very similar to the way blacks are treated in the US.  They are seen as a dirty subculture of people.  In fact, in Holland and Germany, the word "Turk" is a derogatory term much like "Mexican" has a derogatory connotation in the southern parts of the US.  There is alot of ugly history between whites and blacks in America.  Racism comes from hate and anger.  Anger is derived from a perceived personal loss caused by the subject of the anger.  How can you feel hate toward a group that you don't perceive caused you any loss (such as black people in Europe)?  How fond are Dutch people of Germans?  Does the term "Viese Moffe" come to mind?  There is a reason why there are fences separating fans at international European soccer events.

It is the natural tendency of humans to gather with people who they understand and by whom they feel accepted.  That is why prostitutes don't have lunch with nuns and heroin addicts don't drop by the house of a teetotaler.   Ignorance of others causes these gaps to widen, because our misperceptions support our misconceptions.  Racist beliefs are strengthened this way.  We reme

Hi Everyone, some very interesting comments here, (male) mixed races orginally from Trinidad and (female) black from the US.  I thin I've heard different perspectives, I've talked to guys that think black women only want black men, and actually feel intimidated to approach black women.  When they ask about approaching my wife I think it's funny because in actuallity she's not really attracted to black men and prefers other races, but on the occassion she will say that a guy looks good.  For me I could care less what colour a persons skin is, if you look good to me then that's the end of it, guys can say what they want but behind closed doors they wouldn't turn down a Tyra Banks.  Most people can't figure out where I'm from or my ethnicity just by looking at me so I'm not sure if that's a deterrant or not.  I am mixed with Portuguese, French, Indian & Black so from my experience people see what they want to see.  i've been asked am I indian, am I Spanish, etc... so until you speak to me and get to know you you'll never really know me, and in this day and age if we are still judging people by their skin, then we're still going backwards, especially in a lifestyle that is all about being 'Open Minded'.  My wife and I always get to know people first we are both military and we meet people of every nationality, race and culture and work along side them with no problems and in the lifestyle it should be the same way, we are all in this group together so what's the problem??  That's how we indentify each other in the swingers army vs the traditional relationships and we are judged just for being in this lifestyle sometimes.  Bottom line your eyes can only take you so far, and if it's 'all about chemistry' as most say, then get to kow people and if you're not attracted then ok, everyone has their type but at least you can make new friends no matter what colour they are.

Raymond & Lillian

Interesting perceptions and comments. I agree personally that if you get to know someone, color and other initial factors become much less important if they were ever important in the first place. But maybe it really is an issue of personal preference and not racism as some people seem to think. I am not denying that for some, race is a factor but just like some people like tatoos and some don't, or how clean cut a couple is or not. I am the male in the relationship and I do not have a problem if my wife was with a black man but it is not her preference. She is not initially or otherwise physically attracted to black men. There are white women and couples on here that will only be with black men. I suppose they don't like white men which are their own race. Who knows?

To each his own.

This is sounding like the majority of people chose not to get invovled with  IR couples which is not true.There is only a minority  that chooses to stay away from ir ,or even couples  that are not white.

 What you are passing off as racists is only a preference  for a small portion of people. The same holds true  and may even be greater against bi sexual males. Preferences for bi women,straight women passive bi ,golden shower couples or whatever label anyone wishes to put out there, some will not want to experiment outside of what they are comfortable with, no matter what the reason.

 Hell in this site there is a couple where  he is hispanic ,she is asian who say they do not want ir couples.What are they?

 Sure you will find racists in here  lets not limit them only to being racists. They are small minded and will hold something against  people a little over weight,to tall to short, not enough education to much education.We encounter people who are timid or afraid due to Suzys height or big boned structure.Once they find out that she is a caring, giving, bright,sexy ,creative person it has been amazing what  lengths people go to  in order to try and bed her down.But again its the problem of soemone holding something against another for fear of the unknown such as NOT being able to be in control.

 I am quite positive that you find more of this kind of BS outside of swinging then inside of it.We vacationed  in Florida 10 years prior to moving here, where even in the 90's people of color in Sarasota were not alloud inside of restaurants, ice cream parlors etc.

 We commend you for being open minded and wanting others to share in your open mindness.In a perfect world they would without  a 2nd thought.So many really do not know what they are missing out on to top it off they really do not care what they are missing out on.

 Keep in mind  those that you have said  no way no how , when  they have approached you to play. Remember what your reasons were. Were they to large,not pretty enough,looked as if they were shopping to go to wallmart, to skinny. If your answer is ,its a preference.......

Wow... just realized you are from Manchester Julie.  Let me ask you, are they still wearing black jerseys and/or boycotting the "Reds" because of their new US controlling interests without even a chance to prove himself?  I mean, he did bring a NFL championship to the last team he purchased, but, then again,  he IS an American, so deserves to be reviled in the Premiership I'm sure.

People should be judged on their own personal merits.  Not by the color of their skin, hair, geographic location or country of origin.

Julie, she wasn't talking about turn-ons.  She was speaking about people who express an interest in her and then balk after seeing that her partner is black. 

Very simple and nothing to do with their profile.

"Oh HEllO there pretty lady.  We would like to shag you silly. "

"Sounds like some good criek to me.  Let me introduce you to my husband.here he comes."

"Oh, uhm. uhhh.never mind, we don't do the jungle fever thing."

Now, if they take the time to get to know him/them and he's an ass, well, that's a different story. ;)

But, yes, anyone can learn to be a racist.  It's one of those early childhood things that you notice that "makes you different from me" and, in some cases, can be used as a means to push someone down, pick on and bully them.  If left unchecked that attitude can metastasize into full blown racism or bigotry of other kinds; sexism - because you are a girl and I'm a boy, elitism - because I have money and you don't etc.

I don't recall throwing any stones besides the one's concerning racism being a World problem, not just a US problem.  Seems you are the one throwing stones by implying that because the Government, FEMA, Bush, whomever failed in their duty to respond to a crises in New Orleans and further that they hold positions of power in the US that everyone feels the same way they do.  That would be like making the blanket statement that all Iraqis agreed with Saddam Hussein, or all Germans with Hitler or Cubans with Castro. it's just not true. 

"Europeans don't look at the color of the skin"?  Then why have Zidan and Henry been such poster children for the struggle against racial tensions and divisions in France.  Skin Heads are a European creation as well.  Not to mention a little place called Kosovo.

I'm sure you are right Sunlovers.  It never happens in UK only happens in US where everyone is a bigoted racist.  Oh yeah, and all Texans wear cowboy boots, ride horses and have an oil well in their front yard. 

What is the word for someone prejudice against someone else simply because of the country from which they come?  Geographicism?  *shrug*

Here's a thought.  Seeing as you are from UK, I assume, since it is the most popular sport in the rest of the world besides US, that you watched the World Cup.  If racism is such a US problem, then why was the theme of the Cup "Say no to racism."?  It's a World problem.

yes KINDREDSPIRITS, those profiles that you mention with the IR "action" pics do send a clear and appreciated message indeed. For us, seems we are more drawn to those, ..less chances for rejection is the thought process...but oh well, no one likes rejection, and it helps to notice the couples in their profile that validated them too, for they may not have any IR issues. However, when you are specifically told it's because of the african american hubby, then that is not an assumption, that's simply us as well as other IR couples hearing or reading the reason why in a reply. Luckily some couples are forthcoming about it, which is appreciated as well, as far as the honesty is concerned. In America, it seems it is more of a problem, not a problem everywhere in America of course, but NOTHING in the lifestyle is everywehere - especially not too bad it seems in places such as Florida, California, and New York, judging by the SDC profiles we've surfed, also reading and understanding all the validation comments.

Call us any time we never notice color other that for the erotic effect it adds to the view. For us it's the variety that keeps things interesting. If we wanted the same thing all the time we would just do each other (wait been there done that).

As long as the parts fit and we are all smiling why not.

OK...I think I have to opine here.  For the record, WE LOVE BLACK MEN, and we love to play with black men (feel free to write us!!!)!  But I think the USA is getting a bum rap here (I say this as a former West Coast person...I have never lived in the South/Florida).  I belong to a similar site that is much more North America focused than SDC.  There is a sub-group there for couples the love black men, and it has a HUGE USA following.  So I don't think that it is a big problem finding play partners that like the black male experience.

Now it may be that you are experiencing some rejection.  It sounds to me like you are assuming that it is because your man is black.  I think there could also be a lot of other reasons as well, that are totally unrelated to him being black.  It happens ALL the time to other couples too, but that couple (not having a black man in it) doesn't jump to the conclusion that it must be because he is black (the non-black man is saying things like, maybe my dick is too small, or maybe I don't have a full head of hair, or maybe I'm not tall enough).  I am not saying that the racial rejection you speak of isn't happening, but it may not be happening with the regularity you seem to believe is happening.

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